On a similar note, others could accuse ME of being in a state of denial. For years, I have gone off on diatribes spouting a belief that I did not need a relationship to be happy. I viewed any couple as two individuals who couldn't stand on their own and needed another person to feel complete. Eww... WEAK! I could justify my singlehood with ease:
1. I can take care of myself and don't need any financial support.
2. Crying is for babies and I never cry, so I certainly don't need a shoulder to cry on!
3. I decide what I wanna do and when I wanna do without having to negotiate or be nagged by another.
4. My dogs love me unconditionally. If I need sex, then I can find that easily too. Why do I need a partner?
Those are purely selfish reasons. In a relationship, I find myself a better man. I make sure the house is clean, the refrigerator well stocked, and I even forgo tennis matches out of consideration. (GASP!) Winning becomes less important as the Terminator act is dropped. I become more warmly human. I can't even harness the bitter and jadedness to become a super hero bereft of weak human feelings anymore.
Hmm... maybe there is something good to this thing called "a relationship". I'll keep exploring this brave new world and get back to you.