The Awakening:
If I were to be honest, I'd readily admit that I have often settled for less in others. The reasons are varied: childhood shyness, growing up in a society where I am pelted daily with reminders I am not equal, or parental units that still to this day treat me differently than other siblings.It has fucked me up in the head. If family and society always treat me as an anomaly, then I deserve to be mentally abused by others on a daily basis. I settle for bad relationships and friendships, because deep down inside I feel I do not deserve better.
Even in my darkest days, when I just need a hug or a friend to care, I'll get a smattering of hate across the blogosphere or splashed across Facebook.
Welcome to my world.
Or am I condemned to be institutionalized with a bunch of loonies who are hell-bent on always tearing me down?
And it starts with me.I DESERVE BETTER
posted by Brettcajun at Friday, March 09, 2012
14 Comments:
You do deserve better my friend!
Perhaps if you think you deserve better, you might start by not hurling invective at your "friends" by calling them drunks, sluts, "squishies" and the like. You exhibit such complete disregard for the feelings of people who somehow like you that I'm not surprised they eventually poke back.
You do deserve better - but then, so do your friends. Just because someone else hasn't adopted your particular obsessions doesn't make him a "squishie" and even if he is, it's not your place to point it out as a character flaw.
Hi Brett :) you are so special, one of the admirable kind, you know that, right? I am one among thousands, maybe millions friends you actually have across the globe, not only in USA. You definitely deserve better Brett.
Dude, I'd hug you every day if I lived closer to you. I enjoy the fact that you're your own person and that you have the courage of your convictions. You probably think I'm squishy but I don't really care. Sometimes rock hard needs a little squishy, wiggly hug to make the day better and I kind of like that.
Well...duh.
I agree with Kevin M. I get so tired of people bemoaning how they are mistreated and how the world at large has wronged them. "Why do people not treat me right? I am such a nice person! I deserve to be treated good!"
Yes... you do. You deserve nothing but the best. But, in order to get the best...you have to stop looking around you for others to give you the best. You have to look inside and find your own "BEST".
A friend of mine in AA has been teaching me that happiness is not something you find, it's something you create. Sure people are going to be assholes...that is true for anyone. But, if you want to be happy.... really happy..... look to yourself and find your own damn happiness.
I'm just sayin...
This is a repost from the past right? 'Cuz, no offense, but you've surely been down this path many a time already, and I don't even read you very regularly.
Brett, I think you're fantastic! Be sure to sign up for the NCAA Basketball Challenge. I know it would bring you great pleasure to finally beat me at one of these challenges.
Brett.... IT GETS BETTER!
(Wait, who am I kidding? It really doesn't.)
Brett,
You are better than all this. And you do deserve better. I yearn for the dance posts to return and the smiles you used to flash at the camera. This isn't going to sound too positive at first, but—you will always have people who will react negatively to whatever you do. The trick in life is learning how not to react to them. Expect it. See it. Hear it. Whatever. Then move on. In a world as big as ours, there are more people who don't know you than don't like you. Why choose to stay with the latter?
You are instantly attractive to the eye. You are fun to read. And you seem to draw some really cool people into your life and blog realm. I agree with CB, “it” doesn't really get better. A person just gets stronger and confident enough to kick “its” ass into submission.
Hugs
People always see how they deserve better - they never stop to think if some of the people around them deserve better.
You and Jimbo are perfect for each other. You both think you deserve better, but you both treat everyone around you with disrespect and then cry online about how there's something wrong with THEM. The problem isn't other people, it's you.
I find it ironic that you complain about how your so called friends treat you. It was on this very blog some time ago that you damaged our friendship.
Change comes from within Brett. And you may deserve better but that means nothing. Life is not about what you deserve. You need to first respect yourself and hold yourself to a higher standard of behavior. That standard includes showing respect for others, even when they disagree or don't fit your limited world view.
Human nature teaches us people attack qualities in others they detest within themselves. The opposite is true as well. Until you exhibit the qualities you seek in others, you'll be mired in the quagmire of base emotions and all the drama and negativity that comes with that.
I know your blog is mostly about self-adulation but nothing says you can't grow from it as well.
I am sorry I damaged our friendship. And I do try and hold myself to a higher standard of behavior.
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