The Hardest Day
This is the day where I honor the life of my ex-partner Thomas Foster, Jr. I will be delivering a Eulogy for the first time in my life. I am not nervous about speaking for such a momentous occasion because I know that Tommy would have wanted me to deliver his Eulogy. He will be smiling down upon us all celebrating his life. It is going to be so rough on me today. :(
posted by Brettcajun at Sunday, March 13, 2011
11 Comments:
And I have no doubt that you'll step up to the plate and do the most perfect of jobs. Because that's what we do for people. We honor them. We appreciate them. All of my best to you today, friend.....
I'll keep you in my thoughts today. I'm sure you will do Tommy proud.
Oh my word. How did you get on? My thoughts are with you.
So much hope it will go/it went well. Looking forward to your report.
love and strength mate.
Hang in there bud... I can't imagine what you are feeling... just know that we are here and love you...big hugs...
The emotion in your eyes is beautiful, Brett.
Sending good vibes your way.
I hadn't been on your blog for a long time ... and so reading about your loss of your friend and Ex, Tommy, made me feel very sad for you.
As I scrolled down, I felt so much compassion for you.
It's always so hard to lose a loved one, especially when they die young and die by accident. It's even harder on those of us left behind when we feel - right or wrong - we could have done more for that person while they were still alive.
My heart went out to you, and I hoped you'd manage to get through the worst kind of day.
I kept scrolling down your blog.
And then I read your "Book of Brett" post on Feb 23:
"1. Losing is for Losers. Winning is intoxicating. If you are playing just to have fun, you are squishy, wimpy, and not very athletic."
My sympathy for you instantly died. Regarding your break-up with Tommy, you write:
"We didn't know at the time, but Tommy had a thyroid issue that made him very tired and subject to extreme mood swings. It seemed all Tommy wanted to do was lay on the couch or sleep."
The "Book of Brett" post is so judgmental of others, so presumptuous as to what should or shouldn't bring others joy. You show so much lack of empathy/sympathy for people about whom you know nothing.
Brett, there's a lot we don't know about people, even the people who sleep by our sides.
Brett, as you write your "Book of Brett", I hope you'll think about Tommy and his thyroid condition.
I hope you'll think whom you may be labeling "loser."
I hope you'll consider that sometimes people lay on sofas because they have thyroid problems, or lupus, or have been living with HIV for 25 years.
Or, maybe, you'll think about people who never play to win. Those of us who swim and surf and hike and bike or camp or ride horses with no agenda except for the love of the activity.
Or, maybe, you'll consider the possibility that playing softball or tennis or golf, simply for the fun of it and no matter who wins, can bring people joy while helping to keep them fit, not squishy or wimpy.
Mostly, I hope you'll ask yourself if the Tommy you so lovingly describe is the kind of guy who would be so quick to label others as "losers."
@Mike
Thanks for your comment. I enjoyed reading your insight.
Regardless of how Brett has come across in some of his previous postings, he and Tommy obviously loved each other and that's what counts.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
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