Hung:
Do you ever question the point of your existence? You get up, go to work, drive back home, pay bills and do it all over again.
Some of us have time and money left over to enjoy simple pleasures in life: Taco Bell, sex, travel, tennis, Glee, or Facebook. Is this really all there is to life? Sadly, it is for me.
As a gay male, I am not charged with responsibility in raising offspring. My #1 priority is food and shelter. CHECK. My secondary priorities are staying in good health and being physically fit. CHECK. Everything else seems like money and time pissed away. Surely, there must be more to life than this?
I am no more important than a single ant in a great big ant colony called LIFE. I'm just chugging along doing the same thing over and over again. When I think of life like this, I began to understand why old people tell us they are ready to die.
It's depressing feeling like a slave to the human condition. There must be more to life. I want to contribute something greater someway. I am bound and determined to find out how!
posted by Brettcajun at Thursday, November 04, 2010
23 Comments:
1st off, what does "Hung" have to do with this post?
2nd, what's up with the shirtless picture? We ALL have seen the goods more than once and what does the picture have to do with the post.
All gratuitous
So you're wondering what there is to do....I'm sure you have some dreams about it. So take the risk and do them!
Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go.
T. S. Eliot
Take up a hobby, one that doesn't involve competition (so you don't turn it into another mood swing activity.
Sign up for volunteer work. Donate time to help people less fortunate than you are - it's surprising how humbling it is and how much you find you don't need to spend as much money on "things" as you thought you did.
There's no limit to the things you can do to add meaning to your life. Or you can just keep trudging out to the Pub and Oz and such every weekend, seeing the same people, drinking the same drinks, wasting the same amount of money. It's your choice.
Although the pic has nothing to do with the post, I'm happy for it...
Kevin is right... I recently, at 43, started taking piano lessons because it's something I've always wanted to do.
Maybe make a bucket list and start crossing things off.
Picking up a hobby or volunteer work can bring intrest and disraction. I'd go with the dream. And gratuitous pictures are always apprieciated.
"...more to life than this?" Ever heard the term "Noblesse Oblige"? In American English it means a fortunate person should perform services for others not for gain or recognition, but simply because it was the right thing to do. Think along these lines to fill the emptiness you have.
you can become a Big Brother.
I guess this explains why you never made an "It Gets Better" video. Thanks for depressing us!
Well, not to open a can of worms, gay Catholic boy, but you might consider swallowing your anger, reconciling yourself with the Church to the extent that's possible, and going back to Mass. It is possible to accept that the Church will never condone homosexuality; you just pray for mercy and go on with life.
Start your own porn company. That will keep you busy.
I think it's unfortunate that half the comments here seem to miss the point. The shirtless picture, the "Hung" title-in advertising this is the hook---what a blogger uses to "get" folks to read the rest.
Yep life is comfortable for you, at least right now, but all that can change in a heartbeat. While you have all these signs of good fortune going your way maybe you need to rock the vote.
Are you doing something each day that scares you? Something that takes you out of your comfort zone and leaves you with more questions than answers? Maybe puts you in the middle of something that you have zero familiarity with?
I commend your honesty and I look forward to watching where this soul searching takes you.
Writer up!
Here's something to make you feel totally useless - our galaxy is 100,000 light years in diameter, there are approx 100 Billion (that's BILLION Bee-otche) stars in our galaxy, which btw, is considered a medium sized galaxy. There are approximately 100 Billion galaxies in our universe, that we KNOW about right now.
In other words: There's no point in trying to find an explanation of "why are we here". Just enjoy, this incredibly short life that we're gifted with, here on this tiny, tiny, blue spot in a vast, vast universe. Oh and, have lots of sex too.
Well, you could have a third priority "enriching your life" or something.
And then take some of the time spent playing tennis and put toward that (school, hobbies, learning, volunteering, etc).
Like all other people say already above: do something you always want to do, and volunteer for organzation to pay it forward. Those will make you feel better for sure.
Brett, I don't profess to have all of life's answers. But what I have learned is that:
Life is not about ego.
Life is not about vanity.
Life is not about sex.
Life is not about winning.
As trite as it may sound, Life is about Love. And Love has nothing to do with getting; it’s about giving. The easiest way to start getting out of your depression is by being truly grateful for all that you have been given in your life and GIVE heartfelt thanks.
I truly believe that our lives are mirrors of our past thoughts and actions. And you’ve been collecting your thoughts here in this blog over the years. Try using this blog the way most people use their private journals: as a map to see where you’ve been and a guide to see where you should change your direction.
Somewhere inside you are the answers you’re looking for. Try cutting the b.s., stopping the pity party, and get real with yourself for a little while. What have you got to lose?
Brett,
We (Ron and Dan in VT) wrote to you about a year ago. WTF is up with this post? The message has not changed. You will not meet someone you want to be with and who wants to be with you as long as you continue with this poor me attitude.
So let’s change direction. Volunteer at least 5 hours a week to start. A good place is Big Brother Big Sisters. You will be able to help a kid who is a LOT less fortunate than you.
The tennis is good but get real here. Raphael Nadal you aren’t; just have fun with it.
Is the job really that bad? I hear that McDonalds is hiring. Not down there? Try Wal mart they need another greeter.
My friend just had a radical mastectomy, add radiation and chemotherapy and they are giving her 70% chance. Another friend’s husband just had a heart attack then serious infection at the stent insertion site. I read that 14% of Americans do not have employment another 40 million do not have access to adequate health care. I could easily exceed my limit here with this paragraph.
Your life is passing you by. MAKE IT COUNT! From what I see there is not a viable excuse.
Ron and Dan
OK. I'll concede your point that the overwhelming majority of people have their lives tied up with raising children. But what you fail to see is that those who don't are freed to create and do all those things which advance civilization which the Nurturers are drained of time or energy for. THAT is the purpose of the gay. There's nobody else to write the stories or paint the pictures or impress the drama . . . or create the legends.
And trust me. It's a big job.
Hey you big ant! I'm glad your in my life, and have been! Even if it's been a blog exhistance, and a little more! Your an awesome man! I've pondered these thoughts, and still do from day to day! Miss my Brettcajun!
Ok. I have not dropped you a line in a while, and this is from a Southern Louisiana Gay Guy, your life is just great to me and to many others.
Purpose!
That is such a relative thing different to each person.
How much spare time do you have on your hands?
After the job that makes you money, your home and health is your second job.
I might get the mid-life crisis thing.
Or maybe the rural southern Louisiana thing.
But you do seem to have so much in your favor.
Pause and see the ones close to you that maybe you have lost site of and see how much less they have to themselves.
Hope you guys are well. Hello from The Northshore in the Western side of the parish.
NatureJockk and Cletus.
write me.
I believe what you're talking about is what's known as a first world problem.
YOU are BEAUTIFUL Brett :)
You are BEAUTIFUL Brett :)
I'm fascinated by how most everyone commented felt the need to try and "fix you."
You asked, "Do you ever question the point of your existence?"
Yep, some days more than most. I think doing so is an essential part of authoring for ourselves a life that is big enough to have meaning yet small enough to manage.
I agree that finding our purpose enriches our life. We are all born with a purpose and a destiny....and it is God given. Not sure how spiritual you are. I realize most gay men are scarred from religion and are intimidated by God. But, I encourage you to seek God in your quiet time. Pray, meditate, really seek Him....and you will find Him. Once you begin dialogue with God regularly, you will begin to hear His voice and His purpose for you. God loves you...He made you...And He even accepts you just the way you are. Don't listen to anyone who says otherwise. When we begin to walk in our purpose, life brightens and becomes so satisfying....We look forward to each day and what it has in store for us. Sure, some days we may question why we are here. I believe everyone has those moments. So you are not abnormal for having those feelings. The key is often in being thankful for what has been given to us...and giving back to others ...and not expecting anything in return. Learning to love unselfishly.
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