Let me be crystal clear on today's topic. It is NOT healthy to excessively partake in any one activity where it becomes an addiction. We have all been there before. We deny there is a problem. Our friends try to help us. We de-friend them. Then a loud chorus of others start voicing the same exact opinion.
This makes us angry. We see our friend's concern as a conspiracy directed against us. Et tu, Brute? They are not looking after our best interests... they are traitors! They secretly covet my PRECIOUS
! When we reach this point, we have gone totally insane.
As for me, I developed an unhealthy addiction to tennis. In my mind, there was nothing wrong with playing tennis 18 out of the last 21 days. Friends were worried about me getting injured or becoming anorexic.
I would get all defensive and immediately counter with, "Do you realize how bad the obesity rate is in America?!" Or... "You nonathletic fuck! I am the tennis God!!! Let's go to the tennis court right now and I'll demonstrate how well I play!"
Over time, I have seen the error of my ways and cut back on tennis. I had to buy into the fact that I did indeed have a problem. Now, my physical regimen is sensibly balanced between working out and tennis.
I see friends overindulge in their addictions all the time: sexual compulsion, raging alcoholism, heart attack inducing steroid abuse, internet addiction, D&D nerdiness, obsession over a love interest, etc.
If you suffer from any of these issues, a good friend has every right to slap the shit out of you, tell you like it is, and try to make you see the light. That is what a real
friend is for. We must throw caution to the wind and trust our bond will not be broken by having that conversation.