Monday, November 30, 2009


While Eva Gabor moved from New York City to a country farm in "Green Acres", I have chosen quite the opposite path. My reasons are varied. As a single Meaux (Cajun for "Mo"), I have found the country setting akin to living in purgatory.

Being the only one gifted with the fabulous Heauxmeaux gene can do damage on the psyche. (i.e., family gatherings) In a breeder world, you are THE oddball. It is taboo for you to bring up anything about your personal life. If you dare stray from the script, prickly quills rise up and nervous stares rain down.

Simply put... it's lonely being a Meaux. No matter how environmentally friendly you are for not burdening Mother Earth with more human children, you are looked upon as flawed and unnatural. If you are lucky, they'll accept you conditionally.

My Mother has yet to understand the concept of "family" in the Heauxmeaux world. I have tried to explain it to her. She'll scream, "WE are your family!" I'll respond, "Yes, but my friends accept me unconditionally." She'll blurt out, "It's your father! He doesn't understand." To which I reply, "You enable his behavior sitting idly by."

Truth be told, my life in exile was self imposed and rested squarely upon my own shoulders. I was always free to leave. Instead, I accepted my lot in life. If I suffered, then it was my own damned fault for not doing something about it... until now.

At the beautiful Bienville House, I am renting a gorgeous bedroom/bath/balcony in New Orleans from an older couple (Rusty and Al). The place is not far from the famous French Quarter. Here are some pics:




If my life were ever charted, that trajectory would definitely be pointing UP right now. This choice has been an important step for me. It feels like I am now on a good path... to self awareness and happier times.

33 Comments:

Blogger J.P. said...

Good for you. Much happiness on your path onward and upward.

November 30, 2009  
Blogger publius100 said...

My heartiest congratulations!

November 30, 2009  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Wow!

Congratulations---looks amazing!

Enjoy and have fun.

hh

November 30, 2009  
Blogger evilganome said...

Do they let you keep chickens? (Just kidding) Great looking place! Congratulations on the new digs. I hope things just keep looking up!

November 30, 2009  
Blogger cb said...

You moved off the farm?? What about the horses and chickens??? What about boudreaux and Pierre??

What's going on??

November 30, 2009  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I wondered about the animals, too.

November 30, 2009  
Blogger Brettcajun said...

Don't worry about the animals... they will be fine. The horses are taken care of by a skilled handler anyway. My family can feed the chickens daily and pick the eggs. They all live right on the family farm too. As for Boudreaux and Pierre, my furry rugrats, they will always go wherever I go. We sleep in the same bed together and do lots of couch cuddling.

November 30, 2009  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

But won't you miss your cock?

November 30, 2009  
Blogger Mathias N Oz said...

Congrats, the new place looks great!

November 30, 2009  
Blogger Jeff in Toledo said...

You have no idea how happy I am for you. You deserve to live so much. I wish so much happiness for you.

November 30, 2009  
Blogger Stephen said...

Brett,
Congratulations on the new place, and the giant life step you have taken.
Wishing you all the best

November 30, 2009  
Blogger Larry Ohio said...

"...an older couple" WHAT?!! How old are they? About 43 or so?!! Geez!

Brett, I am so glad you are getting out. My husband Greg went through the same thing with his family about 20 years ago, and everything worked out for the best. It's a brave decision.

November 30, 2009  
Anonymous anne marie in philly said...

best wishes on your new adventure! keep us posted!

November 30, 2009  
Blogger Blobby said...

Wait. You're a meaux? :)

I'm very happy for you. I love the new adventure for you - and you'll do and be just fine (as if there was even a question).

November 30, 2009  
Blogger Kyle said...

It is lovely Brett, best of luck.

November 30, 2009  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

OLDER COUPLE??????? We are like 2 or 3 years older than you!

hehehe

November 30, 2009  
Blogger Brent said...

Sounds great.... I can't wait for my own move in about a year and a half. I hope you find what you are looking for.

November 30, 2009  
Blogger Raybeard said...

You speak from the heart - a beautiful heart taking the knocks of frustrations and hurts directed at you just for being true to yourself. I sincerely wish you enormous satisfaction and much more happiness in your new setting and look forward to reading how things pan out and your new adventures. Really good luck, pal.

December 01, 2009  
Blogger RG said...

Congrats on the move Brett. If you think about it, it's almost like a second coming out isn't it?

Charming apartment. And watch the reference to older gay men - just because we've got snow on the roof don't mean there isn't a hot fire in the furnace baby! LOL

December 01, 2009  
Blogger FXOffroad said...

Congrats on the move... and the most heart-felt post I've read on your blog. Looks like Brett is becoming a man. Enjoy the ride.

December 01, 2009  
Blogger Gooster said...

NICE! Now I can come visit! ;-)

December 01, 2009  
Blogger Mark in DE said...

I think the move from country isolation to city stimulation will be good for you. Enjoy the change of pace! BTW, the place is fab.

December 01, 2009  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I would you are nothing like Eva Gabor and much more like the pig owning Fred Ziffel.

December 01, 2009  
Blogger Princessa lil mexico said...

This is the part where are all start singing..."Moving on up.. To the Eastside.. With a deluxe apartment in the sky" Much happiness and good thoughts on your new place. I know the feeling. I moved from Portland to Seattle!

Derek

December 02, 2009  
Blogger Ice John's World said...

Congratulations to have your own place now! And a nice one too!

December 02, 2009  
Blogger WranglerMan said...

Good going, Brett! Lotsa luck with the new place and city-living. May you find the man of your dreams!

I'm sorry about your family, but as you know, family are the ones we allow into our hearts. Godspeed!

December 02, 2009  
Blogger MICK said...

Hope the new place is not near a levee. You might want to consider switching from a 'topspin' to a 'backstroke'.

December 04, 2009  
Blogger Curtis said...

You go, meaux!

December 04, 2009  
Anonymous Justin said...

Parents seldom understand the life of the Meaux. From my experience, they are truly just concerned about you. You will never feel love like the love your parents both have for you until you have experienced it yourself...your parents love you no matter what! They just want you to be able to experience the love and stability that they have felt, and they can't comprehend your not wanting that. And in their eyes, being a Meaux means that you don't want to feel that love. Until recent years, a married life meant you had someone you would grow old with. Someone to take care of you through thick or thin. Unfortunately, in the Meaux world, we don't have that "legally", and it is very seldom that you find life partners that are truly partners for life. You will find very few in the breeder world that go into old age single(quite the contrary in the Meaux world)...As the world is changing and destabilizing married life, you will slowly notice that the prevailing attitudes towards the Meaux world will change.

Good for you on moving to the City! Getting out from under Mom and Dad's eyes will do you good. Hope you enjoy the city more than I did...back in the country myself...once a farm boy always a farm boy...Meaux or not!

December 09, 2009  
Blogger D said...

For introducing me to the fabulous word 'Heauxmeaux' alone, you name should be hung in the heavens, and all should sing praises to your name. Were it not for the fact that having children fills me with a deep and abiding fear, I would offer you my first-born. My thanks will have to suffice instead.

As regards the move and the exciting new course you've charted, congratulations and best wishes for fabuleaux (too much?) times.

Dennis

December 10, 2009  
Anonymous MY Lide would suck without u said...

U r the best man I ever met. U made laugh, smile and believe again in life. We'll never meet each other but u will always light my life. Wish u had been my dad. Love u bro!

December 15, 2009  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Your line on friends being real family because of their unconditional acceptance turned the light bulb on in my head. I never made that distinction and yet it is so true! And yes, "Meauxs" are lonely in a way. We have to take care of each other. :)

Deb in Austin from FB.

January 07, 2010  
Blogger Lango Aurelian said...

I don't get it.

January 08, 2010  

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