Awkward Moment
Have you ever felt the sudden urge to crawl under a rock? I was in this exact situation last night. I was invited by "Denny" to go hit with him and his friend "Zack" last night. They were both players in the men's league that I have played regularly in the last two seasons. In fact, I had just played against them last Thursday in a fun doubles pick up game. I thought we were all "buds".
Well, I get to the courts and it is quite obvious that Zack doesn't want me there. It was written all over his face. He even tells me that he only wants to hit with Denny. Hello, dumbass... you are making me have flashbacks to horrible childhood experiences!
I should have left then, but I was trying to not make Denny feel bad for inviting me. Denny tried to accommodate us both by telling me to come on the side of the court with him and we would hit to Zack. As soon as I get to Denny's side of the court, Zack shouts in a loud booming voice, "BRETT... GET OFF THE COURT!"
I was stunned. Denny didn't know what to do. I walked off the court with my tail tucked between my legs. What in the hell should I do?! Should I just split? I didn't want to make a big scene, so I parked myself on a nearby bench with my racquet.
I text messaged E.Shrew, Whipping Boy, and another friend from the men's league to see if they wanted to come out and hit with me. As I am sitting down on the bench, still stewing from what happened, Zach comes up to me and announces that they have been hitting at 6pm every Tuesday for the last six months. This was their thing.
I sheepishly say, "That's fine. I don't mean to mess up your thing, but Denny suggested I come out here and hit with you guys. We talked last night about finding a fourth person to make a doubles match. Ya'll just hit to each other." The only reason I was still there was because I was waiting to hear from others I had just text messaged.
After getting three rejections (BOY... was I on a roll!), I tried to put my racquet in my bag and split. Denny quickly walked off the court and said he was tired. He tells me to go on the court and hit with Zach. AWKWARD!
The thought of impaling Zach with tennis balls at 140 mph DID pop into my head. I did not want to be where I was not wanted, but I went onto the court anyway just so Denny wouldn't feel bad. I held back my anger and made a stern effort to hit to Zach exactly as Denny was.
Despite my effort, Zach's whole demeanor continued to be one of extreme unhappiness. He did NOT want me there period. He would hit with me for a little while, then abruptly walk off the court saying he didn't want to hit with me anymore. Once again... flashbacks of bad childhood memories fill my head!
Instead of just letting me END THE MISERY, Denny would hurry back onto the court before I could leave. So, there Zach sat miserable on the sidelines watching me and Denny hit. After just hitting for about 10 more minutes, I announced that I didn't want to hit anymore and I was going home. I couldn't take this creepy awkwardness anymore!
I am just curious, how would you have handled this situation?
Well, I get to the courts and it is quite obvious that Zack doesn't want me there. It was written all over his face. He even tells me that he only wants to hit with Denny. Hello, dumbass... you are making me have flashbacks to horrible childhood experiences!
I should have left then, but I was trying to not make Denny feel bad for inviting me. Denny tried to accommodate us both by telling me to come on the side of the court with him and we would hit to Zack. As soon as I get to Denny's side of the court, Zack shouts in a loud booming voice, "BRETT... GET OFF THE COURT!"
I was stunned. Denny didn't know what to do. I walked off the court with my tail tucked between my legs. What in the hell should I do?! Should I just split? I didn't want to make a big scene, so I parked myself on a nearby bench with my racquet.
I text messaged E.Shrew, Whipping Boy, and another friend from the men's league to see if they wanted to come out and hit with me. As I am sitting down on the bench, still stewing from what happened, Zach comes up to me and announces that they have been hitting at 6pm every Tuesday for the last six months. This was their thing.
I sheepishly say, "That's fine. I don't mean to mess up your thing, but Denny suggested I come out here and hit with you guys. We talked last night about finding a fourth person to make a doubles match. Ya'll just hit to each other." The only reason I was still there was because I was waiting to hear from others I had just text messaged.
After getting three rejections (BOY... was I on a roll!), I tried to put my racquet in my bag and split. Denny quickly walked off the court and said he was tired. He tells me to go on the court and hit with Zach. AWKWARD!
The thought of impaling Zach with tennis balls at 140 mph DID pop into my head. I did not want to be where I was not wanted, but I went onto the court anyway just so Denny wouldn't feel bad. I held back my anger and made a stern effort to hit to Zach exactly as Denny was.
Despite my effort, Zach's whole demeanor continued to be one of extreme unhappiness. He did NOT want me there period. He would hit with me for a little while, then abruptly walk off the court saying he didn't want to hit with me anymore. Once again... flashbacks of bad childhood memories fill my head!
Instead of just letting me END THE MISERY, Denny would hurry back onto the court before I could leave. So, there Zach sat miserable on the sidelines watching me and Denny hit. After just hitting for about 10 more minutes, I announced that I didn't want to hit anymore and I was going home. I couldn't take this creepy awkwardness anymore!
I am just curious, how would you have handled this situation?
posted by Brettcajun at Wednesday, July 02, 2008
30 Comments:
OMG! I've got the runs and have to go NOW!
I think I would have said my goodbyes and left. I mean if I am not wanted, I am not wanted. Then I would have gotten a massage and long lunch. The reason why is they would feel guilty and tried to call, but I would let them stew for a day, then call back.
Ray
I know that feeling Brett, so don't let it bother you about what you should have done. You should inform your friend Denny, that Zach is an asshole and you didn't appreciate his shitty attitude.
Some people just can't grow up.
"Zack" is obviously an ass-hole (and not one that I'd like to fuck). It's "Denny's" fault that you were in the awkward situation - NOT yours. If I were you, I'd call up "Denny" and calmly say, "What the fuck was going on last night? I sure felt like a turd."
Then listen politely. It will be "Denny's" turn at being in an awkward spot.
Brett, I'll hit with you anytime.
I would have probably just left, but I would have made it clear to Denny, at least, that this was really crappy behavior on Zach's part and terrible planning on Denny's.
The main reason to leave? Not cause I was pushed off by an asswipe. It would be because if someone wants to have a horrible attitude, let him. Why should you have to suffer through it. I imagine it was a bright sunny day outside. Fuck him.
I tend to get hurt feelings easily, so I probably would have left with the first hint of him not wanting me there. But I'd sure have called Denny and told him what an ass Zack was.
You did the honorable thing, though!
Yeah, I would have said to Denny "bye, give me a call later"
and yelled across the court on my way out "Zach, you're an asshole, fuck off and die!"
It sounds like they were boyfriends and one wanted a threeway and the other didn't.
I would have left. I just refuse to be in those situations anymore, I'm too old and too OK with myself to let someone else make me not feel wanted. Sounds like your friend invited you without clearing including his regular partner. However, that guy had no reason to be so rude to you. I'd have a talk with your supposed "friend".
Wit & sarcasm comes easy for me but, I'm learning while it might make me feel good at that moment, it does nothing to help the situation.
You did right by letting him know that you were invited. Clearly, he was intimidated by you and probably expected you to be overly aggressive and tried to "one up" you. The point here is that he had the issues not you. Letting it upset you lets him win. You are better than that. No one can make you feel inferior w/o your permission.
Your friend should have had the balls to intervene and set Zach straight. Not doing so, I probably would have just left. I don't need a friend who allows other friends to mistreat me out of jealousy.
After not getting anyone else to join in, I would have found the nearest bar... but I am a drunk...
I agree with Kelly... make your own fun. LOL
I would have done the same thing as you!
I think you handled yourself incredibly well considering the treatment you recieved.
The whole thing must have been so painfully awkward. Zack really sounds like a douchewagon though so I wouldn't let it get to you. Move on - obviously he's suffering from little-man sydrome.
Did what you did, tell him you were invited.
http://youtube.com/watch?v=Qw3Z8Oa7E3Y
i would have pummeled the queen with the tennis ball..how old is he..like 5?
So much drama for you out and about guys. He's obviously jealous of you Brett. Maybe it's just your big balls and raquet plus the killer smile.
At any rate, your friend Denny has to take the hit on this one. He's the one that put you in the situation and if Zach's attitude came out of left field then Denny should have called him on it then and there.
Cheer up pretty boy.
Zach? Fuck him!
Got nothing more to say...
jay
Sounds like Zach has a little man-crush on Denny.
I think I would have walked up to Zach and politely and calmly informed him (as you did) that you were invited by Denny and didn't realize you would be encroaching on something that was just "theirs".
And then I would have said (politely of course) that Zach should take a time out to go clean the sand out of his vagina because it was making him behave like a royal BITCH.
And then I would have left and made Denny apologize the next day.
When he yelled at you to get off of the court Denny should have manned up and told him that he had invited you and if anyone was to get off the court it should have been Zach.
Like some of your other readers, I'm too old for this type of behavior.
I would have said good-bye and left and then turned off the phone and stewed all the way to the nearest bar.
Umm... these are not gay people! LOL.
Brett, I'd say Fuck them both! Threesomes are never any fun on the tennis court anyway. Let me come to your courts while they are hitting and I'll show you how to handle Zach, and then Denny. And then you and I can take their court as they leave with their racquets stuck up their asses!
Respectfully,
your tennis coach from Houston
YOu did nothing wrong buddy. I hate that feeling. You did the righ thing. Denny shouldn't have put you through that situation, and he should have told Zack to backoff that he had invited you. YOu rock buddy, don't let it get to you!
You need to write Denny and Zach both off-I blame Denny more. Where was your head at-you were more or less the tennis ball being hit back and forth. this whole scene was fucked up!
Life's too short to deal with assholes. I'd have told Zack he could stick his racket up his tight little ass.
Denny was a complete doofus for prolonging the situation and you deserve an apology from them both.
And, Jesus, who names their kid after a restaurant anyway?
LOL They're not gay?!?! Uh...sounds like at least one of them is closet case with a crush on the other one.
I think Zack would have felt better with your racket upside his head!
I am sure I would have left.. I know when I'm not loved.
HUGS to the Woofy!
Your bud Denny is a spineless jerk for letting his friend Zach treat you so rudely and failing to immediately explain to Zach that he had invited you to join them. It was not your place to have tried to explain that. Zack obviously was in a "Two is company, three is a crowd" mood and clearly didn't want you there "crashing their party". Without saying a word you should have left the two assholes on the court and gone somewhere else where you would be welcome. Are you so desperate to hit tennis balls that you would allow yourself to be treated like this and then "letting it get to you"? Don't be so sensitive and don't think of this as "rejection". Be glad you saw these two guys for what they are.
I personally would have told him to grow the fuck up, turned on my heel, and then gone for cocktails at Oz. There's no way I'd let some emotionally stunted crybaby bring me down. Seriously, grow a set. Bitches like that need to be SAT down and told the truth.
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