Do you ever feel like going off on your MOFO friends?!
I have come to the realization that I coddle some of my best friends (including my Ex) too much. It has got to stop. They think they are perfect (which surely they are not)... and it is all my fault. I listen tirelessly to what is wrong with me from the peanut gallery and say nothing back in return. The truth is that they are WAY MORE FUCKED UP than I am. But they don't know it. If I don't fire back with both barrels blazing... they are going to simply walk around thinking their shit don't stink. That's it. I have had enough. I am in a feisty "DON'T FUCK WITH ME FELLAS" mood. TRY ME!
posted by Brettcajun at Monday, December 11, 2006
19 Comments:
Dude,? Are you Hungover?
Noo... just ready to call a Spade a Spade on those who so richly deserve it. Rolling up my sleeves... cracking my knuckles...
Brett,
just want to say that you have every right to fire with both barrels..enough is enough and I know from years of being an enabler, that I can not be responsible for some else or their happiness...I have to have a life too and one that makes me happy...so you go on and find your happiness.
by the way, love your blog and the pics of you, Brian and Mark...they are great guys.
Mark stated he wanted us to give you shit about the beer pic...but can't...it's kinda hot..lol
Hey, you don't have to fire any barrels! Just stop listening - change the subject, or tell them this topic's getting old - NEXT! If they can't handle that, then start cracking those knuckles.
Both of your barrels firing at them doesn't make them any more wrong or you any more right. Skip the barrel deal. Just let them exist in their little world of total wrongness and fuckedupness.
I've done the same thing as you. Don't go off on them (cause it's just as much your fault as it is theirs), but change your tune. Start calling them on their shit when it comes up. They will probably get pissed, but it's better than coddling them.
Just think how he'd be acting if the Saints LOST.
You go Brett !!!
I've found myself in similar situations with some friends. Some people only feel worthy by putting others down and being all negative, they're so transparent. That shit gets on my nerves. You probably shouldn't go off on them but dish a little back and ask them how that makes them feel.
When anyone tries to criticise me, its is almost always in an area where their lives are deficient,
e.g. THEM: you should marry that one!
ME: Like I'm gonna listen to you Miss Disfunctional-pickout the only psycho in the room...
and thusly I have on occasions been known as "Vinegar Tits"
I feel your pain Brett...
I understand what you are saying and I agree with some of the other guys, just dish the shit back at them, see how they feel...
Cool. Nice pics, looked like loads of fun. Those Dallas boys keep promising to visit Portland, but I'm not holding my breath waiting for them.
Besides its snowboard season anyway. Time is wasting!
You are a Evil Queen
Brettcajun:
If most of your best friends are hitting surface nerves it is because they probably are saying things that you are not agreeing with or perhaps are in denial of. I had some close friends that would tell me things that I did not want to hear, but I found out they were only telling me my flaws to help mak me a better person. Dude,the truth hurst sometimes--most times, but there are lessons to learn from those who really know us. If they are as bad and cruel as you say they are kick them to the curb, but if the shoe fits, get some new shoes.
Real friends are ofte seen as lightning rods because they take risks by sharing the perception that you project. I bet if you talk to them, they are not really telling you things to hurt you, but to get you to reflect inward.
Advice is usually free, telling a friend the truth is usually counter productive to the one trying to help.
Do not be too harsh with them, these days there are not many who will tell us what we do not want to hear and more that will tell us what we long to hear.
Merry Chistmas,
Mike
True friends won't put you down, make fun of you, spread lies, gossip about you, etc. A true friend, if they have something that they need to talk to you about thats important, will sit you down and talk to you about it like a good, true friend will.
If they take any other approach? A bitchy tone? A condesending attitude?
Fuck them, they're not being good friends. Everyone saying you should turn around and do the same thing to them just means you're making yourself like them. Politely telling them off and not taking it anymore to me is the best approach. A true friend will remain.
Just remember, your friends will end up reading your site.
So, don't be too surprised if they end up p.o. and you end up listening to them again.
And the cycle continues...
There are constructive ways to handle any issue without hurting feelings and burning bridges. Have a conversation (this means listening as well as responding) and hopefully things will work themselves out. Maybe you and your friends will both hear things that are hard to hear but worth reflecting on.
This is really funny. It seems that you are taking E. Shrew's advice and attempting to become more like your blog persona in real life.
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